Aunt demands her sister pay back a $20,000 loan fronted for an IVF procedure, but the entitled new mom guilt-trips her to let it go: ‘That was my savings for a down payment'

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  • Mom looking back at her baby in the carseat.
  • Two years ago, my sister (34F) asked me (31F) for $20K to cover IVF costs. I don't make crazy money, but I'd just inherited from our late grandfather, so I agreed, with a written agreement that she'd pay me back within 3 years.
  • She got pregnant, had twins, and I was genuinely thrilled for her. Fast forward: it's been two years, and she hasn't paid a cent.
  • She recently posted about buying a new SUV "for the babies." I gently reminded her of our agreement.
  • She said, "Come on, you wouldn't take money from your niece and nephew's mouths, would you?" I said, "No, but I'm also not their parent.
  • You are." Now she's crying to our family that I'm "heartless" for caring more about money than her miracle babies.
  • My parents are begging me to "let it go," but that was my savings for a down payment.
  • AITA? TL;DR: Loaned sister $20K for IVF, now she's guilt-tripping me into never asking for repayment.
  • LdiJ46 You have a written agreement. You can either do what your parents are begging you to do and let it go or you can sue her, which is probably the only way you will ever see your money back. Or, you can tell your parents to pay it back for her if they don't want her to get sued.
  • Difficult Art9717 NTA. Babies are miracles, not financial black holes you throw your sister's savings into. She asked for a loan, not a donation.
  • Trick_Parsley_3077 So I presume your Parents will happily pay you back for your Sister's $20.0k debt, since keeping the Peace is So Important in the name of Family... Right? NTA, No Money, No Honey hand them the demand for fully payment! Good Luck!
  • lilianic NTA. Get your money back now. Your sister probably never had any intention of repaying you though.
  • AllyLB The babies don't need an SUV, she just wants one. Get your money back. If your parents want to help her buy an SUV, that's on them, not you.
  • DutchDweeb If it was 500 maybe, but 20K is NOT an amount for just 'letting go' Wtf
  • InteractionNo9110 you have a written agreement she pays or you sue her. This is why we don't loan money to family. As Oprah says if you give money to family treat it as a gift. They never want to pay it back.
  • AcanthisittaNo9122 NTA. Find a lawyer and press legal charge, I think if you have her chat asking to borrow that $20k then you're good to go. Your parents are ridiculous, you can fake serious illness and ask them $22k for treatment and if they don't give it to you then you tell them you will press legal charge on your sister, hold them hostage, they clearly have a fav child and it's not you.
  • BriBanana Bread NTA, use that agreement and get your money back. It wasn't a gift, no matter what your sister tells herself.
  • Ineedcoffeebadly NTA. Take her to court, you have proof.

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